It’s always nice to hear how your work has touched someone, and maybe even helped them. As a relationship writer, I love when people tell me about their dating success! I get a fair amount of email from people (typically about writing or dating) and every so often I get someone who tells me about an article or consulting advice of my mine that helped them moved forward from a breakup or find love online. It’s a thrill each and every time I hear it!
Recently, a friend of a friend was having a really difficult time with dating and had pretty much given up. I talked to her and gave her a copy of my internet dating book, and she tried again and this time had a much better experience. My friend told me she’s been emailing people online and now feels so much better about things.
I think it’s easy to get discouraged when you’re single. I’m not sure a lot of people truly understand what it’s like. There are two parts to the definition of being single: you haven’t yet met the right person, and you aren’t going to settle for being with the wrong person.
When I was single I got advice from everyone. Lord, did I ever. All of it stunk! All of it came without me asking for it. All of it came from friends that met their husbands in college or high school. So what did they honestly know about being single and dating?
Another acquaintance of mine finally got out of a bad marriage, and then panicked at the thought of “having to Internet date” like me. She’d always tell me, “I just hope I don’t have to be like you and go online to find someone.” As if that was the most horrible thing! Instead? She jumped right back into another bad marriage. But hey, at least she didn’t have to Internet date.
People make assumptions about singles, as if there is something wrong with them. In my opinion, the people who take their time and get to know who they are end up having much better relationships than those that jump into something that isn’t right for them. Just because you’re “coupled up” doesn’t mean you’re superior to someone who is single.
It was so nice to hear about my friend’s friend, and I hope she continues with her positive outlook. The only way to truly attract the right person is to be exactly who you are and live your life.