I’ve been watching Celebrity Apprentice and have found Gary Busey very entertaining. How can you not be fascinated with a guy who is kooky, genius-like, sweet, and incredibly odd? One of the things I like about him is his “Buseyisms,” or the acronyms he puts to just about everything.
For example, the last time he was on Celebrity Apprentice he introduced FEAR as False Evidence Appearing Real.
See what I mean? He’s kooky but then he says something like this and you think: wow, that makes a lot of sense.
The latest acronym that has caught my attention is SIN, which he defines as Self-Induced Nonsense.
There was a time when I didn’t think much about sin. People were either good or bad and if you tried hard you were good, especially if you didn’t commit the “big” sins. I was a kid, and no one really sat me down and explained God’s love or what sin really was.
Years later, I get it now. People aren’t good or bad, but varying degrees of each, each of us sinning. Sin doesn’t get a rank with God. Sin is sin and we all need to work on it.
And like Gary Busey points out, sin is very often self-induced nonsense. We do it to ourselves. When I look back over my life at the times where I was really miserable, I see much of what I was unhappy about were situations I put myself into. A lot of these were from the patterns I had formed growing up in an alcoholic household. And even though it wasn’t my “fault” that I had these patterns, they were still mine and I needed to fix them.
I think taking responsibility for the patterns you’re in is very freeing. It’s a mature concept. You can’t “blame” others, even your parents, and leave it at that. It doesn’t matter where it came from (although it does suck that someone responsible for giving you unconditional love messed up) and even though you didn’t ask for it it’s up to you to change it.
In other words, the power is yours, even when someone in your past tried to take that power away.
When I realized how much I was actually in charge of changing my life it felt like a weight had been lifted from my shoulders. There was a lot of work ahead of me, a lot of things that would take years, but still, it was all up to me.
That’s freeing, don’t you think? That means that you’re ultimately in control, even when people have messed with you, even when they’ve laid their own insecurities or abusive patterns on your soul.
How do you move forward then? It’s different for everyone, I suppose. For me it involved God, introspection, reading, therapy, Al-anon, and whatever else I could use to learn and grow. The work was hard in the beginning because it was changing the way I thought. You might find this as well when you begin to take charge and change your whole world. As times went on, the work became easier. Now, there is maintenance involved. I still reflect, pray, read, paint, and write poetry to make sense of things and get back to a healthy place when abusive and aggressive people try and push you back in your old patterns, or back (as my friend Nancy says) “into the box” that they like to keep you in.
We’re going to deal with hurtful things, folks. We are going to come across situations that challenge us to the core. Oh, I know that so well and I know many of you do, too. But just when things feel very out of control, you can take comfort in that there is some control. Self-induced nonsense? You can do something about that with God’s help, and while it won’t solve everything wrong in your life it will give you the power to overcome the rest.